Feeling smothered? Look for the stressor

  • Fact: In stressful situations, people may seek relief from their increased anxiety by moving closer to those around them who represent comfort, safety or protection. Their pursuit is anxiety-driven at an unconscious level.
  • Action: Help your pursuer, and resist the temptation to run away. Set boundaries and encourage them to think through the cause of their anxiety. Then, stay close enough to influence them, but keep enough distance to lead them.