Recognize Balance in Relationships: Not too close. Not too distant.

  • Fact: Each of us instinctively maintains a comfortable balance between “close enough” and “distant enough” in our relationships. To a great extent, our balance point is “built in” from childhood. But under stress the balance point can shift toward fusion or cutoff to relieve anxiety.
  • Action: Think for a moment about people in your social networks. Has the close-distant balance shifted for a friend or colleague? If so, look for an anxiety producing cause that may be responsible. Consider if a re-balancing step on your part might help your friend or colleague regain their balance.