This is not my problem! Really? Test your assumptions!

  • Fact: All over-functioning and under-functioning behaviors are part of a larger context—a “story” that rationalizes and justifies why it is essential for us to engage in such behaviors. These false narratives masquerade as objective fact when in reality they are a form of anxiety-driven reactivity.
  • Action: When you suspect that you are over-or under-functioning in some area, try to put into words the “justification” for why it is “necessary” for you to do so, and then test out that hidden assumption by asking for feedback from a trusted, neutral observer.