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Resilient Leadership shares leadership method information at CFHLA HEAT Trade Show

At the CFHLA HEAT, visitors to the Resilient Leadership booth heard Jim Burns and Jim Moyer share information about a leadership method specifically designed to help leaders face and manage even in the most challenging situations.

It was a great show – well planned, organized and executed.   Thanks to all the folks who stopped by to say hello and give us a few minutes to talk about Resilient Leadership . If you missed us, you will be interested in the handouts we provided.

Our organization, Resilient Leadership LLC was delighted to have Jim Burns hosting our booth at this year’s CFHLA HEAT.  Jim earned his RL Coach Certification in 2018 and has been very helpful in speeding the word about Resilient Leadership, in the greater Orlando area. Welcome Jim!

At the CFHLA HEAT, people kept asked about our Iceberg Model. We talked a lot about how to Stay Calm, Stay Connected and Stay the Course.  First steps in learning about being more resilient took place all day as visitor connected with the important ideas of RL. Lots of learning and lots of fun too.

How?

  • By learning how to SEE, THINK and LEAD within their organizational dynamics with much greater clarity, conviction and command.
  • By increasing their level of self-awareness, self-regulation and self-command.
  • By literally GROWING UP in very new and very rewarding ways.
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Do we grow more from Comfort or from Challenge?

RL Practice of the Month

Do we grow more from Comfort or from Challenge?

Do we grow more from Comfort
or from Challenge?

Fact:

Our body’s immune system grows stronger when it is faced with a virus or manageable threat that it must defend against by growing antibodies. This is at the heart of why immunizations work. The human system strengthens itself by overcoming adversity. Likewise, individuals and organizations grow stronger from overcoming adversity, from being stretched outside of their comfort zones, and from the challenge of finding new capacities within themselves.

Action:

Consider the extent to which you are currently asking yourself and others to stretch, to grow and to face challenge and adversity. The role of the leader is to act much like the immune system of the body, developing stronger internal capabilities in the face of adversity, which in turn builds confidence, fortitude, and strength. What new challenge might you undertake yourself or offer your family or team to strengthen the capacity to face and overcome challenges?

Try It:

As we move toward the end of the year, consider what growth opportunities exist which will help strengthen yourself, your family, and/or your team. What new capabilities can be developed in 2020 which will equip you, your family, and/or your team to be stronger, more prepared, more capable. Think it through, make a plan, face and meet a new challenge!

  1. Try our Self-Assessment to find out how resilient you really are
  2. Learn about our upcoming Resilient Leadership Certification Program

Would you like to know more about leading with calm, clarity, and conviction?

 

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Really?

RL Practice of the Month

RL Practice of the Month-August

The apple doesn’t fall far
from the tree. Really?

Fact:

The nugget of folk wisdom contained in this familiar saying may seem quaint to the point of being more myth than fact. But there is an accumulating—and by now conclusive—body of research that has documented the extent to which both “nature and nurture” conspire to shape the person we are. We “inherit” both our strengths and our vulnerabilities from a combination of genetics and epigenetics, from our DNA and from environmental factors such as the emotional patterns passed down to us across multiple generations of our family tree.

Action:

Increasing awareness is the essential starting point for improving how you show up as a leader. Grow your self-awareness (by personal observation and from conversations with family members) of the automatic, inherited family patterns that drive how you interact as a leader at home and at work.

Try It:Gather information about the topics or situations that “trigger” an emotional response from you. Make some choices:

  • Think to Yourself – “Am I triggered when someone challenges my authority, or my knowledge, or my motives?” What else? Be specific.
  • Ask Others – Ask a few family members and a few colleagues– “What are 2 or 3 topics or situations that you notice trigger a reactive response from me?”
  • Look Across Your Examples: Where is there commonality in your triggers or reactive behavior as seen by yourself or others? Is it possible that something in your past (either family upbringing or other life experiences) makes you especially vulnerable to this trigger?
  • Ask Yourself: “What changes will I make to have more self-command when triggered?” .

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Bridgette Theurer on Resilient Leadership Development

Resilient Leadership is a big shift in thinking. Coaches who become Certified in Resilient Leadership (RL) develop new capabilities for helping their clients live and lead with greater awareness, understanding and command of themselves. RL concepts, tools and methods helps people SEE, THINK and LEAD with much greater insight into the emotional processes which surround and influence everything. Listen to what Bridgette has to say about the impact of Resilient Leadership on her coaching practice.

A New Way of Thinking – White Paper

A New Way of Thinking White PaperIn this document we invite you to focus on the nature of the “New Way of THINKING” that has the potential to transform to a dramatic degree the effectiveness of leaders everywhere. “What exactly is this New Way” you might ask. The short answer to this question is to “think systems”, but more specifically it is a mandate to “Think Emotional Systems”.

Foundational to this way of thinking is a recognition that every organization—in fact, every group of people who interact together often enough to have formed a cohesive unit—is made up of both a “Rational System” and an “Emotional System”.

Click here to read the entire White Paper.

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Managing a lot of change? Give your team the clarity they need

RL Practice of the Month
Managing a lot of change?
Give your team
the clarity they need

Resilient Leadership Clarity

Fact:

The human brain craves certainty. When change efforts breed uncertainty, anxiety and reactivity escalates, as does the rumor mill. The emotional system begins to vibrate with greater and greater amounts of dissonance. Rumors become rampant and when passed around the emotional system often enough become confused with fact.

 

Action:

Ask yourself where your team needs more clarity from you. Then communicate clearly, consistently and often. Doing so will calm their anxiety and settle the rumor mill, which in turn will allow people to act more thoughtfully.

Try It:In the midst of a change, repeatedly share accurate information and facts.
Let team members know:

  • The “Why” of the change,
  • The “How” of the change, and
  • The “When” of the change.

And even when you don’t know all the facts about a change (either because they are still evolving or because they have yet to be shared with you) be transparent with your team. Tell them what you do know, what you don’t know, and commit to keeping them in the loop”.

 

Would you like to know more about leading with calm, clarity, and conviction?

 

Spend 3 days with us that you will never forget.

Enroll in our Resilient Leadership Coach Certification where you will work with a small number of colleagues to explore the emotional dynamics that surround all that you do at work, at home, …. everywhere. Our Certification Programs take place: October 17-19, 2019 and May 14-16, 2020.

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A triangle goes toxic! Reposition yourself!

RL Practice of the Month
A triangle goes toxic!
Reposition yourself!

Fact:Triangles are the smallest stable unit in an emotional system. They are nature’s way of dealing with anxiety. They instinctively form in our social systems in order to establish more emotional safety when stress arises. We all have been there when a triangle “lights up”, often in unexpected ways and with unanticipated intensity. And it can happen in a split second.

  • A colleague at work comes out of the boss’s office fuming and makes a beeline to your desk. “You won’t believe what just happened…”.

Action:How we respond in this situation will either increase or reduce your ability to help calm down the triangle between yourself, the boss, and your colleague. Being resilient in this situation calls you to quickly see the increased reactivity in the triangle, recognize the part you can play to calm things down in the triangle, and take appropriate steps without taking sides.

Some suggestions are:

  1. Avoid feeling sorry for someone, blaming someone or offering solutions.
  2. Listen without judgement and then help your colleague clarify their thinking about what happened in the boss’s office.
  3. Avoid the “togetherness position” which means avoid commiserating or feeling responsible to help your colleague figure out how to patch things up with the boss.
  4. Work to keep communications open between your colleague and the boss.

Try It: This month be on the lookout for triangles around you which would really benefit from a reduction in tension. Think about actions you could take to lower the anxiety in these triangles and decide to take an “anxiety reducing” action. Look for signs of improvement as you practice: Staying Calm, Staying Connected and Staying the Course.

 

For more insight, please enjoy the videos below!


For more information, watch this video of Jim Moyer on transforming triangles!

 


For more information, watch this video of Jim Burns on transforming triangles!

 

Feeling Overworked or Overcommitted? Hit the Pause Button

  • Fact: To overfunction means to think, feel or act for another in a way that erodes their capacity for ownership or effective action. Overfunctioning is an anxious response to stress and includes behaviors such as a failure to delegate, assuming responsibility for another’s work, excessive worrying about another, or telling others what you think is best for them.
  • Action: Next time you feel the urge to step in and do for others, hit the pause button. Be responsible for what is yours to carry, and let others do the same.

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.

  • Fact: To overfunction means to think, feel or act for another in a way that erodes their capacity for ownership or effective action. Overfunctioning is an anxious response to stress and includes behaviors such as a failure to delegate, assuming responsibility for another’s work, excessive worrying about another, or telling others what you think is best for them.
  • Action: Next time you feel the urge to step in and do for others, hit the pause button. Be responsible for what is yours to carry, and let others do the same.

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.

Facing Resistance to Your Ideas? Don’t take it personally!

  • Fact: Resistance to change is a natural response of all systems because they are designed by their very nature to preserve the status quo.
  • Action: Rather than seeing pushback or resistance as a personal affront to you, view it through a systems perspective. When you are challenging people with new ideas or new ways of doing things, anticipate resistance and learn to see it as a sign that you are doing something right!

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.

  • Fact: Resistance to change is a natural response of all systems because they are designed by their very nature to preserve the status quo.
  • Action: Rather than seeing pushback or resistance as a personal affront to you, view it through a systems perspective. When you are challenging people with new ideas or new ways of doing things, anticipate resistance and learn to see it as a sign that you are doing something right!

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.

Feeling out of control? Reduce tension first to regain your footing

  • Fact: Anxious feelings are caused by an automatic response to a real or perceived threat. The amygdala (primitive brain) is in the driver’s seat when that happens.
  • Action: Stop and think: “What’s causing me to feel anxious right now? Is my level of concern realistic?” If yes, decide what action is needed to bring control back. If no, see your over-reaction for what it is, smile to and at yourself, and move ahead.

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.

  • Fact: Anxious feelings are caused by an automatic response to a real or perceived threat. The amygdala (primitive brain) is in the driver’s seat when that happens.
  • Action: Stop and think: “What’s causing me to feel anxious right now? Is my level of concern realistic?” If yes, decide what action is needed to bring control back. If no, see your over-reaction for what it is, smile to and at yourself, and move ahead.

 
Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

Resilient Leadership Self-Assessment

To find out how resilient you are click here for your free or full assessment.