What had I done? I created a triangle between myself, the mom, and the cashier impatiently waiting. My anxiety kept rising because I couldn’t lower the mom’s anxiety.
Updated: August 1, 2023
I soon learned that the changes I had introduced had injected a significant amount of anxiety into what Friedman referred to as the family system of the church.
Updated: December 1, 2022
I learned a lot during this very difficult time as I watched the principles of Resilient Leadership in action.
Updated: October 25, 2022
I suddenly found myself frequently experiencing the powerful emotions of residents and team members on concerns that were important to them.
Updated: November 2, 2023
Through Resilient Leadership certification I learned more about the Rational System and the Emotional System. I learned that we are generally unaware of chronic anxiety and so we tend to just react unconsciously to it in any Emotional System (think relationships.)
One of the assumptions that I had always made was that the more knowledge and life experience I gained, the more comfortable I would be leading others. I have since learned that this isn’t necessarily the case. I experienced that knowledge, responsibility, and even age can actually increase anxiety.
I had observed success in others who had specific skills in marketing, strategic thinking, financial acumen, or operational savvy, and some who just plain outworked everyone else. None of those attributes applied to me! Yet my continued success has been recognized and rewarded, moving me up the ladder of success during my entire career.
I learned a “new way of seeing.” I learned that over and under-functioning is anxiety driven and a reciprocal phenomenon. In other words, if I overfunction at work or in family life, others will under function…
Richard McLaughlin Shares His Story About Managing Toxic Triangles to Solve Complex Problems and Reduce Chronic Anxiety
Business Leaders are tasked with solving complex and intriguing challenges almost daily. In this edition of the RL Spotlight, a client of ours, Richard McLaughlin, shares his story of a significant challenge he faced and how…
Discover how leaders are applying Resilient Leadership principles in their lives and how it’s helping them rise above the turbulent forces of today’s emotional challenges, enough to even save a life!